Lesson 65: Hard to teach the kids nowadays? Especially if you are too gentle

In the recent training, students management issues were being discussed among the coaches.

Coach A, "The students were too noisy, I couldn't conduct the lesson well."

Coach B nodded his head, "Yes yes, no one would bother even though the whistle was blown loudly."

Coach C, "Punishment didn't work as well. They didn't listen to me."

So, the conclusion is, to sigh and say that the students now are harder to teach.

Oh yes, compare with the students few years back, the students now are too hard to teach! They ignored teachers and did whatever they like in the class.

Constantly being interrupted when you were passing important information, was really frustrating. As a result, teaching became an exhausting and thankless job.

I understood how it felt. Teaching was like going to a battle field throughout my working years. However, I somehow found some useful tactics after a few trials and error. For example,

1. Make the first thing first in the class: Respect
We usually told the students that, "When I talk, you listen, because when you talk, I will also listen."

2. Train the students to listen to your instructions
As a coach, we always bring a whistle with us. Before any activities, we usually inform the students that, if you hear the whistle, you stop. It is like the other coaches for ball games. All the athletes listen when the whistle was blown. 

3. Use reward & punishment
Giving reward or punishment according to the child's behaviours. I tried this: if the child listen to my instructions well, more game time was given; or else vice versa. However, it depends on the teachers and the students' interests.

Even though a few methods were shared, the other coaches said, "It's useless. They didn't care much neither the whistle nor the reward and punishments. They just don't listen. Besides, we are not like you, so we can't do it."

Well, there are some other ways to modify or to try on, isn't it?

"It's just couldn't work. It's useless." The coaches disagreed.

Their replies annoyed me. It couldn't work? But it worked for me.

Even if the work is the same, according to the method, it can be done faster or slower, and it can turn out well or not well. (Pastor Joshua Jung Myung Seok)

In order to understand more, I went to one of the class to observe.

When the coach was explaining on the game instructions, a student interrupted, 
"Coach, what if we accidentally throw the ball out of the circle?"

The coach said, "Then, I will minus point."

Another student interrupted, "What if I catch the ball from the opponent?"

The coach answered, "Then, I won't minus your point."

In the end, students were busy discussing on who were going to catch the ball and who were going to be the defender. The coach had not complete the instructions yet. The first thing first in the class was respect, wasn't it? If students interrupt when the coach is talking, it shows "disrespect" an thus they break the first rule. However, more and more students began to ask questions because the coach continued to answer them, while more students began their discussion.

The coach looked at me. Her eyes were telling me that, "Look, I didn't lie, right? They just couldn't listen to me."

Thus, I told her, "Blow the whistle, ask them to keep quiet."

The whistle was blown once but the students ignored it. The coach was a gentle person so he didn't want to create conflict with the students and thus he didn't take any other actions.

How could we allow the students to do whatever they want? I think managing students does not mean to create conflict with the students.

However, the coach who had king and gentle personality thought that managing students would create conflict and hatred in the students. In order to avoid hatred among the students, he chose to tolerate the students' inappropriate behaviors.

We all know that different people have different thought and thus individual ways in doing things. So, in other words, different personality uses different approaches in managing the students, right?

Yes. There are not any compulsory formula in education. Some coaches were more humorous, some coaches were stricter, while some coaches were friendlier. different ways in dealing with the students, different ways in teaching, and different ways in making the rules. 

However, there is one thing in common, which is, the goal.

Whatever personality we are having, our goal is only one, which is transforming the student to be a better person.

The problem is, we often misinterpret our own personality.

A gentle coach does not like to be strict, so the act of breaking the rules was allowed in the class.

The purpose of education is to make the students better. Education leads the students to the correct path. Hence, the coach should take the authority. If you allow the students to take away your authority and behave in the way they like, just because you are gentle and kind, then you are not achieving your goal.

The more chaotic the situation, the more you should take the authority back from the students.

If a coach does not do that, the kids' behaviours are not going to changed.

Try something else rather than insisting going on the path that you like. Even if you accomplish something by going on a path of a different method, the destination will be the same. (Pastor Joshua Jung Myung Seok)

Therefore, it is not that you cannot do it, it is just that whether you are willing to try on other methods.

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